The declaration contradicting the return address is what gets it opened.

Ask for the longer appointment slot. Ten minutes is not enough for a complex history and pretending otherwise wastes both your time.

It gets smaller. Not easy, smaller. That distinction kept me going.

Bring a list. Embarrassment makes everyone forget things, including you.

Small wins count. Walking to the mailbox is a data point.

What do you do about the fee? Do you just pay it? Five years in on Royal Mail and it lines up.